This is a guest post by Holly Gaskill. Scroll to the end of the post to meet Holly.
From a young age, I’ve been fascinated by a single ‘movie magic’ concept – The Look.
For those of you not familiar, this is the single moment in any cliché movie where Prince Charming looks upon his true love in a whole new light. From that point on the plot can be predicted fairly easily. At some point, Prince Charming will rescue his love from her endangerment, profess his love to her, and they will live happy ever after. It’s simple and childish, but I’m taken with how much love could be shown through someone’s eyes. As I grew out of my devotion to Disney princesses and High School Musical (somewhat), I assumed my slight obsession with The Look would also. However, in many ways it only became stronger.
As I grew, I grew more perceptive to the fact that my older siblings and friends were pairing off and exchanging Looks in their relationships. This only became increasingly obvious throughout the years. When my first close friend began a serious relationship, something clicked in my head when I saw the way her boyfriend looked at her.
He loves her. He appreciates her. Why can’t I have that?
I was happy for my friend in every way, but I wanted what she had. I blamed myself for not having a boyfriend who would look at me like that. Something had to be wrong with me, right?
Maybe if lost a few pounds guys would want to go out with me. I should try to contain my loud, obnoxious laugh, it’s probably a turn-off. I have to have this acne treatment because no guy wants a girl with a polka dot face.
My heart was not content with who I was. How could I? This person I was was obviously not worth any guy’s time. My thoughts were consumed me with how I could try to be better, how I could be worthy of a man’s attention?
This unhealthy cycle continued on for a long time, but it all came crashing down at church camp before my sophomore year of high school.
It was Friday night, the conclusion to the week of camp and only outdoor chapel service. The pastor was preaching from Revelation’s description of Christ and His Bride, the Church. He talked us through what a metaphorical wedding between Christ and His Bride would look like.
In this scene, Christ is the perfect groom, standing at the front excitedly. Then the pastor described a more risqué vision of the Bride, His Church. She’s walking down the aisle, one heel broken, and makeup running. She’s obviously a train wreck. To add to this, her dress is all misconstrued. This Bride had clearly slept with a random guy who was standing in the back, giggling. Yet in the craziness of this scene, the Groom stands at the altar beaming with happiness. She is His beautiful Bride whom He has chosen.
We are His beautiful Bride whom He has chosen.
Not only did the Creator of the universe stitched you together and designed you perfectly and individually, but He chose His creation for His Glory.
I can’t conceive any guy’s attention equivocating this.
Instead of chasing after turning a guy’s head, let’s focus on Christ, who has always had His head turned. After all, we are already the Bride to the One who cherishes us beyond any man’s capability.
Silencing the world’s comments and our thoughts is not an easy task. It’s a daily battle, but a worthwhile one. I encourage you to always look into Scripture for encouragement and truth. These are just a few things that God says about you.
You are beautiful.
“…and the King will desire your beauty. Since He is your Lord, bow to Him.” – Psalm 45:11
You are loved.
“The Lord appeared to him from far away. I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you.” – Jerimiah 31:3
You are precious.
“For you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” – 1 Corinthians 6:20
You are strong.
“Awesome is God from His sanctuary; the God of Israel—He is the one who gives power and strength to His people. Blessed be God!” – Psalm 68:35
You are adored.
“…so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.” – Ephesians 3:17-19
You are empowered.
“I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” – Philippians 4:13
You are chosen.
“You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, He may give it to you.” – John 15:16
You are His.
“But now thus says the Lord, He who created you, O Jacob, He who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.” – Isaiah 43:1
It’s my daily prayer that each one of you, along with myself, gain a deeper understanding Jesus Christ’s infinite love for us. Maybe someday we may catch a glimpse of how priceless He sees each one of us.